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i tried this, but it a.) doesn't let me play and leaves me at a black screen, or b.) spawns me and i cant move and i have 0 pings.

so how can he rejoin?

i read that but cant find how to change in game resolution

i have the same problem... i get 200 pings (if im lucky)

then again, my computer is from 2002, so...

i don't know, but it worked for me somewhat.

you mean why did i kick him? it was accidental. i was hovering over it, then my brother bumped my arm and i accidentally clicked 'kick' -.-